Updated: Mar 12
This morning, while reading my devotional, it spoke on the tongue.
Words are powerful. Words reveal our thoughts, heart, and impact others. I enjoy writing; therefore, I love words!
A couple of years ago, while in therapy, I began to understand the truth of words and the importance of direct communication.
The only direct communication I had memory of was in my drunk, stupor state- of -mind when my words were not my truth. They were muddled words spoken from a place of bitterness, resentment, and the hatred I carried in my heart. Can you relate? Maybe, your words are not muddled from drunkenness, but from a place of anger and malice. The 'feeling' of...you hurt me, so I am going to hurt you.
I lived that way for a while, especially with my husband. Now, with the holy spirit's help, I can be honest with him, myself, and others. Why? Because I have found wisdom in Proverbs 18:21.
The tongue has power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
Ask yourself what fruit you are producing? Is it faithfulness, self-control, patience, goodness, gentleness, joy, kindness, peace, and love.
I have to embrace accountability. Sometimes life happens; sometimes I do not produce all of the "good" fruit. Why? because I am sinner who is saved by God's grace, and I need Jesus daily to correct me when I am wrong; and continually teach me wisdom and knowledge.
Communication was and still can be, at times, hard for me. Difficult conversations use to scare me. I never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings or feel uncomfortable by speaking my truth. Truth is- God, himself, gave us a playbook (the bible) how to handle our tongue and how to handle ourselves and others' during quarrels and feelings of injustice or our own prideful ways.
I value honesty and honest communication. It is very valuable in reconciling or terminating relationships. I thank God every day for working on my heart, and my inner demons, because I now am accountable for my own tongue and my marriage has been restored on account of it.
Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.